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A character in some work is generally shown positively; they have friends, with whom they are in varying degrees funny, loyal, generous, or just nice. But then, one of their close blood relatives shows up — probably a sibling or parent. And suddenly we see a different side to the character; snappish, abrasive, vain, painfully unhappy, or downright hateful. Their friends may well be puzzled. Are they some kind of Jekyll & Hyde? Not really. They're just at their best with people they choose to hang out with; having been forced into close proximity with these other people for years, without being asked, has created issues. The mere fact that they share genes with those other people doesn't remove the problem; this may be a Formerly Friendly Family, but that depends on the specifics of their story. Like most real people, they have good and bad personality traits, and their difficult family relationships often bring out the bad ones. Unfortunately, while they might simply avoid any social acquaintances who annoyed them this much, nobody can change who they are related to by blood. This is often Played for Laughs in an episodic comedy when some broadly sympathetic character gets a visit from family and suffers intense temporary stress or turns into a monster for that one episode. In such cases, the problem usually lies with the visiting family member, who is shown to be every bit as bad as the regular character thinks, justifying the negativity; when the visitor leaves, everyone sighs with relief, and the status quo is restored. However, this isn't guaranteed; some or all of the fault may turn out to lie with the regular character, whose bad side is thereby revealed, or who has to learn a lesson or resolve their issues at some point. This may happen when the visitor admits to some past error that left the regular disproportionately embittered. Alternatively, the family may be recurring background characters, in which case, the problem probably does lie largely or entirely with them, or the lead character will end up looking unsympathetic. They may be anything from minor nuisances to recurring antagonists to pure evil. If they're all evil, this makes the foreground character a White Sheep; if they're not that bad really, the hostility becomes a significant character flaw — which may just be a way for the author to save the foreground character from being too much of a paragon. Whether relatives-by-marriage come within the scope of this trope may depend partly on whether the character considers the ties of blood to extend that far, but it can be as difficult to avoid Obnoxious In-Laws as to avoid blood relatives if your spouse feels obliged to be loyal to them and you want your marriage to survive. As many people will probably admit, there's a lot of Truth in Television in this; some quite nice people are fully capable of squabbling harshly with some of their relatives, for good or bad reasons. The saying "We Choose Our Friends, God Gives Us Our Relations," or some variant of that, is a rueful acknowledgement of this. This trope contrasts with Thicker Than Water but is not the oppositenote In fact, the oft-cited 'blood is thicker than water' quote is sometimes changed to 'The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb'. More info on this down in Real Life. Someone can dislike their family quite intently but still feel that blood relatives have an inescapable claim to some kind of loyalty, especially if they were Formerly Friendly. Indeed, blood being Thicker Than Water may be the reason why they still associate with these family members at all, despite all the stress, anger, and danger of looking bad. Inversions of the trope are not particularly noteworthy; lots of people, in reality and in fiction, are cold and reserved with most others but show affection to their families. Sibling Rivalry may be the original source of the conflict (depending on the actual relationships involved, of course). People mostly grow out of those sorts of problems, though, or try to avoid looking too bad as a result; this trope can kick in when a good person lets a family conflict turn toxic. Abusive Parents can of course be an excellent reason for not getting on with one's family; merely Amazingly Embarrassing Parents can also trigger the trope if they don't let up on the habit when their kids leave home. The Glorious War of Sisterly Rivalry or a Cain and Abel situation can generate this trope if either or both of the siblings look nicer when out with friends and not engaged in the conflict. If the problem is a seriously Dysfunctional Family, an Archnemesis Dad, or an Evil Matriarch, the character may get special credit for getting out of that mess. Conversely, a dark version may arise when an Antagonistic Offspring finds allies. Family of Choice avoids this problem by having "family" actually be chosen friends — though once somebody is committed to a Family of Choice, they may feel unable to drop them despite a breakdown in the friendship, bringing this problem back into play. Adopting the Abused may come into play when someone from outside the family (officially or unofficially) adopts a character who has a legitimate reason to be wary of their relations. Examples |
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Dork Tower: Estella has fallen out with her family, who can't handle the fact that she's gay, but is pleasantly surprised when Gilly takes the fact in her stride. (She presumably doesn't know that Gilly's own brother is gay.) This leads to Gilly taking her home as a guest and adopted family member for Christmas — and her conclusion that "This is a time to be with family! ... As long as we get to choose our family!" | |
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The Expanse: When she goes looking for her deserted son in Season 5, Naomi Nagata learns the hard way that she now has more in common with her new crew than with him (or with her ex-partner Marco, but she knew that) — and she has to act on this. | |
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Some of her friends and colleagues are perhaps a little surprised by Angua's reactions to her family showing up as part of the plot of The Fifth Elephant, although they get the point soon enough; she's the White Sheep in a family of man-eating werewolves. | |
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Hamlet is a thoughtful, academic fellow who has friends both close and distant, and a developing romance with a girl who has even stronger feelings for him. Unfortunately, his uncle turns out to have murdered his father and married his mother. Everything goes downhill from there, as Hamlet turns into a ruthless avenger despite himself. | |
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Green Arrow, a man with a number of good, loyal friendships, has serious relationship problems with his son Connor Hawke. It's complicated. | |
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Discussed and ultimately averted in Tequila Sunrise in Carlos' What the Hell, Hero? speech to Mac near the end, after Mac stops Carlos from killing Joanne: | |
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Captain Planet and the Planeteers: Despite his tendency to disagree with them, Wheeler has a pretty warm and smooth relationship with the other Planeteers, Gaia, and Captain Planet. His father, an alcoholic who verbally abused him until he ran away from home, is another story. | |
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By the end of Blackbird (Arrow), Laurel is on good terms with everyone except her family, including her ex-boyfriend Oliver, who regained her respect and trust after nearly dying in battle against Ra's al Ghul to rescue her from the League of Assassins. Meanwhile, she has disowned her mother Dinah for her Parental Betrayalnote namely trading Laurel the League of Assassins in exchange for Sara, and her relationships with her sister and father are strained. Sara due to the part she played in the aforementioned betrayal, and Quentin because Laurel can't bring herself to tell her father the Awful Truth about why she disappeared three years prior. | |
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Discworld: Some of her friends and colleagues are perhaps a little surprised by Angua's reactions to her family showing up as part of the plot of The Fifth Elephant, although they get the point soon enough; she's the White Sheep in a family of man-eating werewolves. From most people's point of view, the D'Regs in Jingo are a whole nation that embodies this trope. They are violent, sneaky, but somewhat shrewd desert raiders; they have their own idea of honor and rules of conduct, but they pride themselves on being untrustworthy. Hence, one of them says that his mother would be horrified if she thought that he trusted her. |
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Superman's Pal: Jimmy Olsen (2019): Played With. Jimmy and his sister, Janie are on reasonably friendly terms. While she gets exasperated by his more chaotic tendencies, she seems to care about him. He also likes her and supports her avant-garde theatrical endeavors to the point of blackmailing Lex Luthor to keep them funded after discovering that their families are secretly related. However, Jimmy and Julian are usually at odds thanks to their wildly conflicting personalities. He has a much warmer relationship with Superman (who isn't even from the same planet, let alone the same family) than with his brother. | |
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In Comic Girls, Tsubasa, a somewhat tomboyish manga artist who has a passion for drawing shonen manga, happens to come from a highly wealthy and traditional family that disapproves of her pursuits. To say that Tsubasa's personality is incompatible with her family is an understatement, which is why Tsubasa strongly prefers to stay at the dorms with the others. | |
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Deconstructed with the title character in Melody, who has a strained relationship with her stepfather due to their shared angst over the death of Melody's mother, but a positive one with her aunt. She isn't really seen as having any conflicts with her friends, but her tutors are a different story. The takeaway is that Melody has positive relationships with people who value her as a person, and give her the best relationship experience. | |
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From most people's point of view, the D'Regs in Jingo are a whole nation that embodies this trope. They are violent, sneaky, but somewhat shrewd desert raiders; they have their own idea of honor and rules of conduct, but they pride themselves on being untrustworthy. Hence, one of them says that his mother would be horrified if she thought that he trusted her. | |
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Turning Red: Early in the movie, Mei is shown to be happy and energetic — even a bit arrogant — at school and around her friends. However, around her mother, she's more meek and submissive. This conflict becomes much more intense after she starts transforming: confined to her bedroom, with no support from her mother, she can't control the panda at all. But around her friends and their open and loving support, she's able to achieve almost complete control of the panda with very little trouble. She realizes her love for her friends must be stronger than her love of her family for that to be the case. | |
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In Shortpacked! (from which Dumbing of Age, above, draws some of its characters), one of Robin's lifelong goals is to live this trope, as her family life growing up wasn't particularly happy. It's spelled out here. | |
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Harry Potter: The title character is very good at making friends with all different kinds of people, but his relationship with his only close living relatives, the Dursleys, is very bad. (His parents loved him deeply, but they're dead.) This doesn't reflect badly on him, though; they're shown to abuse and bully him in the early parts of the series when he's still a child, but he doesn't retaliate (much) even once he becomes aware of his magical powers. And according to Word of God, he and his cousin Dudley, who underwent a Heel–Face Turn after being attacked by a Dementor, do develop a normal cousin relationship as adults. Sirius Black was the White Sheep of his pureblood-supremacist family and was far closer to his school friends than any of his immediate relatives. By the age of seventeen, he got so sick of his family's rhetoric that he just left and went to live with his best friend. |
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Better Call Saul: Chuck is a highly respected lawyer with a strict ethical code. At work, he is seen as a Reasonable Authority Figure. However, when it comes to his brother Jimmy, Chuck can be utterly unreasonable, vengeful, and petty. This is partly due to Chuck resenting Jimmy for being The Favorite, and partly because Jimmy has done some very bad things in the past that Chuck just cannot forgive. | |
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Star Trek: In Star Trek: The Original Series, Spock has a very good relationship with his crewmates (particularly Kirk and McCoy), considering he's culturally required to be The Stoic, but he has severe issues with his father, to the point where they didn't speak to one another as family for almost two decades. Stories involving his family show a different and troubled side to Spock. Star Trek: The Next Generation then partly inverts the Spock situation, possibly to the point of conscious parody, with Deanna Troi, who is sensitive and empathetic to a fault; the episodes where her meddling mother, who is all too happy to speak to her, shows up at least allow her to show a little bit of irritation. TNG also brings this up in "The Icarus Factor", when Will Riker's father, Kyle, shows up on the Enterprise after years of the two not speaking to each other. |
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Titans (2018): Very much the point of the series, as is made explicit to an Anvilicious extent in the last episode of Season 2. More or less all of the Titans come from dysfunctional or abusive backgrounds, but (if they can just stop fighting each other) the team are their Family of Choice. | |
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Girl Genius: Agatha definitely has this dynamic going with the maternal side of her family sans Theo, the other White Sheep. The paternal side is just as bad, but because her missing father and uncle were the last two Heterodynes before her generation, it's not mentioned much. Brother Ulm invokes the "religious" form of the trope more or less word for word in his intro pages. | |
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SOKO Potsdam: Luna has a great relationship with the other members of the detective squad, especially Sophie. Her father is a bumbling Con Man who has been in and out of prison most of her life, and once inserts himself into an investigation with gossip he heard on the prison grapevine about their latest suspect before he was released, that turns out to be only partially true. | |
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Sue Thomas: F.B.Eye: In "The Kiss", the FBI investigates the firm where Myles' sister works. Myles and Anne spent most of their childhood competing against each other for their parents' attention. As a result, Myles laments that he actually has more of a relationship with Sue, his coworker, than he does with his own sister. They take steps to remedy this at the end of the episode. | |
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In Star Trek: The Original Series, Spock has a very good relationship with his crewmates (particularly Kirk and McCoy), considering he's culturally required to be The Stoic, but he has severe issues with his father, to the point where they didn't speak to one another as family for almost two decades. Stories involving his family show a different and troubled side to Spock. | |
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Wally West really doesn't like his parents as they were abusive to him; one of the few blood relatives he does love is his aunt Iris. Wally has done his best to build a Family of Choice since he became a superhero and pretty much disowned his parents to the point he made an (albeit failed) attempt to ensure they didn’t come to his wedding. | |
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Jeeves and Wooster: Bertie Wooster is fundamentally incapable of turning really nasty and definitely believes that blood is Thicker Than Water, but the appearance of one of his bossy aunts can drive him to, by his standards, desperate measures. | |
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Cries and Whispers: The terminally ill Agnes is cared for by her two sisters Karin and Maria and her maid of many years Anna. It ends up being Anna who shows the most affection for Agnes, while the sisters are too wrapped up in their grudges and personal dramas to do more than the bare minimum for her. This is shown most clearly in the climax, where the dead Agnes briefly comes back to life to ask her sisters to be with her one last time. They are too disgusted to do so, but Anna unhesitatingly climbs into bed with Agnes and holds her while she goes to the other side. | |
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In the Five Nights at Freddy's fanfic, Something Always Remains, Vanna is very hostile when it comes to the subject of her family, especially her mother, yet Mike is her best friend, and she gets along well with most of the other characters. This is because after her twin sister disappeared at Fredbear's, her whole family gaslit her into believing it never happened, and that Vesper was "taken by angels". Her mother then held her up to an impossible standard of perfection that she could never achieve. Later, she learns why her family tried to erase Fredbear's from her memory: it was founded by her aunt, who married a black man, before she perished in the Spring Bonnie suit. Vesper disappeared shortly after. To her credit, Vanna reunites with a relative on her uncle's side who had been just as hurt by the aforementioned events as she was. | |
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Alexander Tagere from the Arcia Chronicles has the best friends a man could wish for: a tightly-knit group of young nobles who view him as their leader and dub themselves the "Wolf Cubs", after his personal coat of arms. His family, on the other hand, is Big and Royally Screwed Up, starting with his mom, who hates him, through his middle brother, who fears and despises him, all the way to their distantly related rival clan of Lumen, who see him as the devil on earth. | |
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A Chance for a New Dawn: At the end of Chapter 19, Bernadetta reflects on how close she's grown to her peers in Garreg Mach, realizing that they've provided her with a much stronger sense of community and caring than her own parents have ever offered. | |
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Fairy Tail: Erza and Natsu don't have great luck with their relatives (Natsu's brother is the Big Bad, while Erza's mother is The Baroness and her father is guilty of Van Helsing Hate Crimes). Luckily, they consider the rest of the Fairy Tail guild to be their family and don't consider their blood relatives to be family members to them. Lucy herself is close to her friends, particularly the rest of her team, but while she had a close relationship with her late mother, she ran away from home due to her father. She later makes some progress reconciling with her father, but he dies before she returns from Sirius Island. |
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Apertum Mortem in set in a world where Midoriya Inko is an Evil Matriarch; while Izuku attempts to fill the void by surrounding himself with friends at U.A., he's also left with severe trust issues that prevent him from truly opening up to anyone. Naturally, this complicates matters considerably once his mother reenters the equation. | |
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In Accel World, Haru is close to his friends Taku and Chiyu, and considers the rest of the reborn Nega Nebulus to be his True Companions, but hardly ever sees his mother. Kuroyukihime is in a similar situation, as it's revealed early on that she lives by herself as a result of threatening her older sister with a box cutter after said sister manipulated her into killing Red Rider. Her parents kicked her out of the house after the incident was caught on camera, and it's implied that they weren't all that close to her before that. | |
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In Bloom Into You, this is suggested to be the case with the main character of the in-universe School Play. She's thought of as The Ace at school, being a star student and talented athlete. At home, her younger half-brother thinks of her as an Aloof Big Sister who is rarely home and distances herself from him, her mother, and her stepfather. He bitterly notes that this is probably her "real" personality. The main character's girlfriend adds another dimension to this, as she notes that the main character only shows her vulnerable side around her girlfriend, and in the original ending, the main character "chooses" to be the person her girlfriend remembers her as since they choose to be together. | |
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This trope is something of a theme of Dumbing of Age: Both Becky MacIntyre and Joyce Brown are in the process of breaking away from Christian fundamentalist upbringings to more broad-minded world-views, making friends with non-fundamentalist fellow college students in the process, which leads to serious friction with their still-fundamentalist families. Whereas Joyce is on a long, hard path of change so that her relationship with her family is merely difficult and complicated, Becky breaks away radically, coming out as lesbian and abandoning creationism — and her father responds by bringing a shotgun to the college. Becky subsequently shows a definite understanding of the trope. Amber's relationship with her father is violently negative, to traumatic effect for some of her friends. When Joyce describes her as "as good as family", she doesn't take it positively, and she even has a comeback when Joyce asks what's wrong with "family" you choose. Ruth only fails to illustrate the trope because she doesn't really do friendship much. |
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Bobbinsverse: Ryan Beckwith tends to react negatively to his father. This doesn't make him look bad, though, as the mild-mannered Ryan is quite polite about this, and his father is, depending on which of the strips you read, at best a feckless tramp, at worst a career criminal who almost dragged the young Ryan into crime. Ryan's mother responds to her husband with outright violence, because she's fiercely protective of her children. | |
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Sticky Dilly Buns: Ruby Larose can be abrasive or manipulative with strangers, but that seems mostly to be a defense mechanism; pretty well every other cast member manages to get through that shell and takes a liking to her, while she soon learns to appreciate their friendship. Unfortunately, almost every time she has to deal with her sister Amber (which is often, as they're sharing an apartment and Ruby becomes Amber's PA), her long-standing bitterness (which has a quasi-Freudian Excuse) comes to the surface, and Ruby turns brutally sarcastic and hostile. Until the very last online strip in which they appear, anyway — and a subsequent print bonus strip suggests that their relationship still needs some work. | |
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Clea in Doctor Strange takes this trope to new levels. Well, she is the hero's lover, while her relatives are a Dimension Lord and a Humanoid Abomination... | |
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Go Get a Roomie!: The normally rather chilled Lillian gets downright neurotic, even paranoid, when her mother unexpectedly visits, while Roomie doesn't even mention her family for quite a long time. | |
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Akira says this almost verbatim in Katawa Shoujo, during her sister Lilly's route, after Lilly and Hisao officially begin their relationship. The two sisters are fairly close, but their parents left them to fend for themselves in Japan for years, and Lilly had a falling out with her cousin Shizune over disagreements regarding student council work. As such, Lilly describes the group of herself, Hisao, and their mutual friend Hanako as being a bit like a family. | |
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Several of the more likable princes of Amber in The Chronicles of Amber must appear this way to their friends in Shadow. The problem is, they're part of a family of superbeings who've been plotting against each other, sometimes viciously, for centuries; turning paranoid and ruthless, even brutal, when family shows up, is a basic survival mechanism for them. | |
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Star Trek: The Next Generation then partly inverts the Spock situation, possibly to the point of conscious parody, with Deanna Troi, who is sensitive and empathetic to a fault; the episodes where her meddling mother, who is all too happy to speak to her, shows up at least allow her to show a little bit of irritation. | |
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