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The oldest breakup line in the book, and still the favorite way to get rid of a Temporary Love Interest. However, there's a key difference on television: sometimes, it's actually true!
Usually, when true, it's because the breaker-upper has a Big Secret. For example, in season one of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Buffy breaks up with a guy because his craving for excitement/death wish would probably get him killed if he kept hanging around Buffy. Sometimes, "It's my enemies." Other times it's the Last Het Romance for a newly-out-of-the-closet character.
However, in other cases (especially in a Sitcom), it becomes "Oh, who'm I kidding? It's you!" But the reasoning may be shallow and superficial—see Minor Flaw, Major Breakup.
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In Pact, Blake Thorburn turns down an offer from his friend Alexis to be Friends with Benefits, telling her that it's due to his issues with intimacy and assuring her that if it weren't for that, he would go for it.
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Dragon Age:
The Player Character can use this line to break up with Leliana in Dragon Age: Origins. She will call you out on doing so, however, and demand the real explanation.
Fenris says this to a romanced Hawke in Dragon Age II after their night together—he's got good reason, though, and he calls it 'the hardest thing I've ever done' in party banter. Later on, if you pursue it, he decides it was a stupid idea after all.
Anders gets in on the action as well if you choose to romance him. He constantly declares all the reasons why he and Hawke couldn't be together (including the fact that he is an apostate, could never give Hawke a normal life, and the fact he is possessed by Justice) but in the end, if Hawke continues to pursue him, he gives in anyways.
The tradition continues with Blackwall and Solas in Dragon Age: Inquisition, who can both dump the female Player Character romancing them, though they make it clear it's not because of you or anything you said or did, but because of their own issues behind the scenes. Blackwall reveals that he's a former war criminal who's been living under a false identity for years, and Solas is really Fen'Harel, the ancient elvhen god of legend.
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In Ni no Kuni, a minor NPC husband in Ding Dong Dell states this as the reason why he can't be with his wife anymore; it turns out that he's brokenhearted (had a piece of his heart stolen by the dark wizard Shadar) and needs some Love.
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Coupling:
Steve does it in the first episode to Jane, who of course asks him why she's getting dumped instead of her dumping him. Steve runs with this, telling her to dump him, to which she replies "Noooooo! We can work on your problems!"
Subverted when Patrick tries to break up through her answerphone with one of his numerous conquests :
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CSI: NY: When Danny first asks Lindsay out, she says she can't be in a relationship with him. He balks, saying he's not thinking about anything serious, but she still tells him, "It's not you, it's me."
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In That '70s Show, Nina breaks up with Fez using this line. When she wants to get back together later in the episode, he blows her off with a mocking "It's not me, it's you".
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Kanon tries this in the second arc of Umineko: When They Cry. He does this to spare Jessica heartbreak from loving someone who can't love her back. After all, he is furniture. Considering how it's revealed later on that there's something very wrong with Kanon physically due to injuries from being thrown off a cliff, he's probably justified in doing this.
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Ellen of Slings & Arrows gives this line to her much younger boyfriend Sloan shortly after he asks her to marry him, saying that he deserves better than a middle-aged woman caught up in a drama-filled world (the theatre) that she can't let him into.
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Used repeatedly on Sex and the City, in both of the ways described above. One scene showed the same bland guy being dumped by a series of women using the exact same lines.
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The tradition continues with Blackwall and Solas in Dragon Age: Inquisition, who can both dump the female Player Character romancing them, though they make it clear it's not because of you or anything you said or did, but because of their own issues behind the scenes. Blackwall reveals that he's a former war criminal who's been living under a false identity for years, and Solas is really Fen'Harel, the ancient elvhen god of legend.
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In the twelfth Tantei Team KZ Jiken Note novel The Valentine Knows, Sunahara used that twice in an attempt to distance from Aya, animated as episodes 14 and 15. Neither of them works, as Aya's having a crush on him and was overly troubled by his apparent association with Japanese Delinquents.
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Neon Genesis Evangelion: Genocide: After unintentionally beating a fellow pilot up, Asuka tries to push Shinji away and force him to break up with her because she's afraid of hurting him. It doesn't work.
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The Stone Poneys' "Different Drum":
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You're Under Arrest! plays this straight in episode 33, when Kachou finally reveals why he doesn't reciprocate Natsumi's feelings for him:
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Scar Tissue: Deconstructed. After a botched synch test with Unit 02 Asuka starts to avoid Shinji because she fears that she will hurt him during her nightmares or Unit 02 will try to kill him. When Shinji finally confronts her about her behaviour and gets the truth out of her -that she is pushing him away to protect him- he tells that is the most stupid thing he has heard:
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Robin: When Tim breaks off his relationship with Zoanne he puts all the blame on himself. Their relationship was already failing due to him standing her up when they were supposed to go on dates and the fact that they were both still trying to figure out if they liked each other romantically when Stephanie came back into Tim's life and he realized he still loved her.
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Subverted and inverted in Euro Trip.
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The Child of Love: After losing badly against an Angel, Shinji gets depressed because he thinks he is unable to protect Asuka and their child, ergo, he is unfit to be her boyfriend and Teri's father, so he breaks up, thinking she will find someone better and stronger. Asuka reacts as calmly as you would expect, and Misato and she spend an entire month trying to reason with him until Asuka had a long talk with him and they reconciled.
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In The Summer You Were There, Kaori proposes that she and Shizuku go out for the duration of the summer so that Shizuku can write a book about it. After Kaori collapses and is hospitalized, resulting in Shizuku learning about Kaori's chronic respiratory disease, Kaori tries to break up with Shizuku. Initially, Kaori tries to act as though it would be boring for Shizuku to go on hospital dates, but after some pressing, reveals that she's terminally ill and admits that she feels as though she can't do anything for Shizuku, although she eventually relents once Shizuku refuses to give up on her. It is revealed after Kaori's death that Kaori wanted to be Shizuku's real girlfriend, but was afraid Shizuku wouldn't be able to move on from her death.
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In the Swedish comic Rocky, the titular character's girlfriend tells him that there are a couple thing she needs to talk with him about. Rocky predicts that the breakup clichés are going to pile up, and correctly enough, his girlfriend proceeds to tell him that "I don't know what I feel anymore" and "I need to be alone for a while", after this she, with tears in her eyes, asks him to say something, and he simply and bitterly answers "You forgot 'It's not you. It's me'!"
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In No Rest for the Wicked, November assures the Boy that though she's not fit to marry, it's not that she doesn't like him.
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Something*Positive:
Spoofed: "It's not you, it's me. I don't want to be involved with a pussy."
Also referenced: here.
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Farscape. Played for laughs in "Look At The Princess", when a handsome local tries to hit on Aeryn Sun.
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Caroline in The Vampire Diaries manipulates her boyfriend Matt into breaking up with her since, as a young vampire, she lacks the self-control to not rip his throat out in an intimate moment.
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Ménage à 3 hints at an unusual variant of the trope (involving therapeutic ethics), and then lampshades the hint, in this strip.
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Something More (Adventure Time): This is the reason Phoebe breaks up with Finn, she feels that as long as her emotions are thrown out of wack by her feelings for Finn she will be a danger to everyone and even her boyfriend, so she ends things for both their safeties after the rather recent incident of thinking Finn didn't trust her about her innocence in Scorcher's attempted assassination of PB.
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George from Seinfeld claims to have invented this trope (see the quote).
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Izzy tries to pull this on Tanya in Ennui GO! when the latter tries to pursue a relationship, rightfully pointing out that she's "awful, hedonistic, and rapidly losing her grip on reality". Tanya isn't deterred, and the two end up entering a polyamorous relationship alongside Izzy's ex-girlfriend Darcy, with the three ultimately getting married in the Volume 6 finale.
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In Minions, after jailing the Minions, Scarlet starts to tell them "It's not you..." then changes her mind. "No wait, it is you."
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The Gods of Arr-Kelaan plays with the trope with a God dismissing his High Priest.
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On Boy Meets World Shawn says this to Cory when they "break up" their friendship in the episode appropriately titled "It's Not You, It's Me".
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In Lady in the Dark, Liza says this to Kendall Nesbitt.
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Dawson's Creek: Played honestly at the end of season 4 when Pacey and Joey break up because he believes she can do better and he's holding her back from her future after graduation.
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In Servant × Service, this is the reason why Lucy rejected Yutaka's offer to start dating. Initially, Yutaka was oblivious to it, and upon discovering it, he was quite happy; it means there's still a chance he can change her mind.
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While the line isn't actually said, the sentiment is the same in Tomoyo's route in CLANNAD, where Tomoya (temporarily) breaks up with her after being convinced that she's too good for him and he's only holding her back (her being The Ace and Student Council President and him being a delinquent.)
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A non-romantic example comes up in What About Bob?. The title character suffers from pantophobia (fear of everything). While sanitizing a payphone, he says this trope word for word to the woman who has just finished using it.
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The IT Crowd plays with this when Douglas discovers that his Temporary Love Interest is Transgender:
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In Candy Candy, Terry leaves the Boarding School half to rebel against his neglectful father, half to stop causing troubles to Candy.
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In El Goonish Shive, Susan uses the line in an attempt to let Matt down easy after rejecting his advances. She goes on to justify it though, explaining why it is probably her and not him.
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Helen and Troy's Epic Road Quest: Helen turns down Troy's proposal for a date out of the belief that Beast and Beauty pairings don't work with the genders reversed, and that whatever relationship they would start would just be a footnote that won't last when their adventure is over.
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Uhura gave Spock the "It's not you, it's me" speech when they broke up at the beginning of Star Trek Beyond: McCoy's take on the situation? "When an Earth woman says 'It's not you, it's me', it's definitely you."
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Played for laughs in Strange Magic when Princess Dawn says this verbatim to the Bog King. She had only been in love with him because of an accidental hit with a love potion and had been very annoying and clingy during that time. Needless to say, he is very relieved. He's also in love with her sister anyways.
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In the Pre-Crisis universe, Superman had several personal reasons to resist a romance, and they vary depending on the story and era. In Krypton No More, he considers himself an outsider. In What Ever Happened To The Man Of Tomorrow, he cannot choose between Lois Lane and Lana Lang because his choice would hurt Lana, and he would never want to hurt her.
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Miss Texas/Tennessee's reasoning for not dating other wrestlers, such as Derrick King in Power Pro Wrestling. She did eventually date Ron Killings though.
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This is Harriett's reaction in The Rigel Black Chronicles to finding out that Draco Malfoy is interested in her. She really can't afford to date anyone in her cover identity as Rigel Black, or she'll be found out and face a life sentence in Azkaban — but also, because she's hiding so much, she's not sure that anyone who falls for Rigel really knows her.
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Warrior Cats: Dovewing dishes this out on Bumblestripe in Bramblestar's Storm. She broke up with him because she still loved her last mate, Tigerheart, and legitimately felt bad for stringing him along for so long.
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Demonseed Redux:
Chico says to Rhoda that their relationship isn't working out, but it must be something up with him.
Dee tells she was avoiding being viewed by Chico's romantically to hide herself being an angel, and being effectively a soldier isn't much into romance anyway. Another factor is that when she tried to romance him the first time, Chico had an angelic smell on him, which scared Dee away.
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Fenris says this to a romanced Hawke in Dragon Age II after their night together—he's got good reason, though, and he calls it 'the hardest thing I've ever done' in party banter. Later on, if you pursue it, he decides it was a stupid idea after all.
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This was Satsu's reason for leaving Buffy before their relationship could really start. Buffy was unsure of her feelings about Satsu, but Satsu was definitely in love with Buffy - so much that Satsu didn't trust her own judgement around Buffy. She solved the problem by getting transferred to Tokyo.
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Lucy in Elfen Lied loves Kouta, but feels she can't be with him because she killed his family in front of him, and because as the Diclonius Queen, she is meant to wage war on humans for the sake of her species.
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In Becoming the Mask, after Claire kisses him on the cheek twice, Jim decides to let her down easy and tell her that he is not into her.
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Rooster Fighter: Keiji leaves a chicken he just slept with, not because he thinks of her as a toy, but because he's a "wanderer" and it's mating season. She's left heartbroken anyway.
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Inverted in the aptly named It's You: A Breakup Story, where your goal is to either convey to Josh why you're breaking up (his disregard for your feelings) or to make peace with the fact that none of your excuses will be good enough for him and block his number in your phone.
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In Cyberpunk 2077 Johnny Silverhand can attempt to sleep with his Silver Fox ex Rogue (in V's body), but she'll back out of it at the last second out of guilt over having sold out to the corps, stating that she's not the Rogue he once knew.
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In the third season finale of The Mentalist, "Strawberries and Cream," FBI agent Craig O'Laughlin uses this line on his fiancee, CBI agent Grace Van Pelt, just before trying to kill her. She and Teresa Lisbon get the drop on him and kill him instead.
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How I Met Your Mother:
When Robin once broke up with a boyfriend, she also "broke up" with his 10-year-old son. On realizing that nobody had broken up with him before, she was relieved that she could throw every cliched breakup line at him and he would believe her. "It's not you, it's me." "I'm going through a lot of stuff right now." "I just want to focus on my career." etc. etc.
Lily becomes really, really excited when she finds out that Robin and Barney kissed, but they tell her that it was just a one-time thing. Brokenhearted, Lily asks if it's something she did. "Oh God no. It's not you, Lily, it's us." (With "We'll totally still be friends" thrown in as a bonus). Her response is "As long as you're happy, I'm happy." Cut to her sobbing and eating a gallon of ice cream in bed.
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Prue in Charmed uses this line repeatedly when her boyfriend Andy gets upset that she's keeping secrets from him and missing dates, and also when she eventually breaks up with him.
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In the Katawa Shoujo fanfic Sisterhood, Hanako says basically this when (attempting to) breaking up with Hisao. The reason she feels that way is when Hisao had a heart attack in front of her, she suffered a panic attack and froze up, resulting in a passing stranger having to call the ambulance for the both of them. Hisao rejects this reasoning and manages to convince her that it's okay that she has issues too: they can work through it.
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In the Friends episode "The One with the Thumb", the characters discuss "dating language" i.e. the lies you tell someone so you don't hurt their feelings during a break-up.
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TheOdd1sOut: The guy breaking up with the girl says this in the comic "Breaking Up".
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